Tuesday, 13 January 2009

Interesting Analogy from Workshop - Maximising Performance

Yesterday, I attended a corporate workshop on "Maximising Performance". The faciliator started the workshop with identifying the key responsibilities of a corporate. She uses Father as an anology. She asked what is the responsibilities of a father and we listed a few like: -
1. Provide for the family
2. Protect the family
3. Running household errants
4. Nurturing children
5. Role model
6. Entertainer
7. Discipline master
8. Setting direction for the family
9. Etc...

A corporate is just like a father who has to set a key responsibilities. This set of responsibilities will be the same for every corporate aka father in this explanation. To be able to fulfill all will show that the father is a perfect father. Is there really a perfect father? I doubt so because we are all humans and we make mistakes. We will never be able to fulfill every item on the list. What we can do is select a few aspects that is most important i.e. prioritize to be given full attention to carry it out.

As I looked at the list, I suddenly remember a friend who sent me this list about being a boyfriend that every girl wants.

The Boyfriend Every Girl Wants

- When you break her heart - [ the pain NEVER really goes away ]
- When she misses you - [ she's hurting inside ]
- When she says its over - [ she STILL wants you to be hers ]
- When she walks away from you mad - [ Follow her]
- When she stare's at your mouth - [ Kiss her ]
- When she pushes you or hit's you - [ Grab her and don’t let go ]
- When she starts cursing at you - [ Kiss her and tell her you love her ]
- When she ignores you - [ Give her your attention]
- When she pulls away - [ Pull her back ]
- When you see her at her worst - [ Tell her she's beautiful ]
- When you see her start crying - [Just hold her and don’t say a word ]
- When you see her walking - [ Sneak up and hug her waist from behind ]
- When she's scared - [ Protect her ]
- When she lays her head on your shoulder - [ Tilt her head up and kiss her ]
- When she steals your favorite hat - [ Let her keep it and sleep with it for a night]
- When she teases you - [ Tease her back and make her laugh ]
- When she doesn’t answer for a long time - [ reassure her that everything is okay ]
- When she looks at you with doubt - [ Back yourself up with the TRUTH]
- When she says that she likes you - [ she really does more than you could understand ]
- When she grabs at your hands - [ Hold hers and play with her fingers ]
- When she bumps into you - [ bump into her back and make her laugh ]
- When she tells you a secret - [ keep it safe and untold ]
- When she looks at you in your eyes - [ don’t look away until she does ]
- Stay on the phone with her even if she’s not saying anything
- DON'T let her have the last word
- DON'T call her hot, but gorgeous or beautiful is soo much better
- Say you love her more than she could ever love you
- Argue that she is the best girl ever
- When she's mad hug her tight and don't let go
- When she says she's OK don’t believe it, talk with her
- because 10 yrs later she'll remember you
- Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her
- Call her before you sleep and after you wake up
- Treat her like she's all that matters to you
- Tease her and let her tease you back
- Stay up all night with her when she's sick
- Watch her favorite movie with her or her favorite show even if you think its stupid
- Give her the world
- Let her wear your clothes
- When she's bored and sad, hang out with her
- Let her know she's important
- Kiss her in the pouring rain
- When she runs up at you crying, the first thing you say is;
"Who's ass am I kicking today baby?"

This list is extremely long. Taking the explanation from the faciliator, such a boyfriend will be a perfect guy and is impossible to find as we are all humans. What we can do will be to select a few and try to carry out as best as possible.

Actually, the items on the list are all to make the lady happy. The more a guy fulfills the items on the list, the happier the lady will be. From this list, there will be certain items that a lady will place more emphasis so if the guy does more of these "certain items", the lady will be tremendously happy. The more weight that the lady has in the guy's heart, the more the guy will try to make her happy. Well, I don't think it will be a one-way traffic. In order for the guy to do more, the lady too have to fulfill items on a list. Which leads us to the question of where is the list on "The girlfriend that a guy wants"? I hope someone will come up with one.