Saturday, 11 October 2008

Another Article by Dr Pat Love

I guess she's a famous relationship counsellor otherwise not only the new paper (written in my previous blog article) but I saw Lianhe Wanbao interviewed her too.

This mandarin article is much more in-depth. I feel it would be good to share it here. This article wrote that through her many years of counselling, she has come up with two words to give to ladies and guys.

To Ladies, its STAR.
Sex - Studies show that males will be able to produce Oxytocin (will feel more in love) during sex.

Touch - Males feel the closeness to the person through touch

Appreciation - Females should appreciate what males have done as males will always want to make bring happiness to females. The more appreciative the ladies have towards their male counterparts, the more the guys will do to make the ladies happy.

Respect - Respect the daily routine and habits of males.

To Males, its ROCK.
Routine - Males should make it a routine or rather a habit to show their affections through little acts.

Open up your heart - As the phrase is "Open up your heart", means males should express what and how they feel not only through words but also through little gestures, acts, etc.

Contact - Let the ladies know that you miss her through phone call, sms, etc.

Keep it positive - Ladies are very sensitive towards negative expression so guys have got to be more restrictive on such expressions.

After reading this article, I find that her insights are good knowledge so I decide to drop by the library to take a look at the books she has written. Should be interesting and hope to learn something too.

Interesting News Article

Yesterday being TGIF, I was somehow slacking a little and picked up my colleague's new paper to read and saw this news article about "Latest SDU Speaker - You can call her Dr Love".

Couldn't believe that there's a person by the last name "Love". But anyway, her name's not the interesting news.

Excerpt from the article. What is Love?
"Love is not chemistry, not infatuation, not attraction, not sexual desire. Love is the wish to make someone happy. It's altruism, it's generosity." What she has mentioned in the article made me review my understanding of what love is. I had always thought that to love a person one must have chemistry and attraction (emotional, mental, physical and soul). If what she mentioned is true, then what I'm trying to look for is not correct anymore.

Well, I pulled my brakes and stopped to think for awhile. My conclusion is that chemistry and attraction are the ignition to the relationship. The wish to make this person happy comes in as he/she will be the "precious" of your life and to make this person happy, one has to provide selfless concern for the welfare of this person. Suddenly it struck my mind that such love is also related to the parental love, siblings love and children's love for their parents. Parents give all to their children and siblings care for each other.

From I Corinthians 12-13 - "And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love". Love (any type) is most wonderful on earth.

Monday, 6 October 2008

Memories (Little Brother)

As I look at my little nephew and his short soft hair, I remembered the times when I was playing with my cute little brother.

There was one day at my grandmother's house, I had come back from school and was playing. I saw my cute little brother and suddenly I thought of the monk's 9 dots on his head. I looked at my little brother's hair and took a pair of scissors. Guess what I was about to do.

I started to cut the hair on my little brother to simulate the 9 dots on the monk's head. I guess I must have watched too much tv. I was cutting the dots and my brother was sitting on the wheeler. He didn't move as I was cutting his hair but all of a sudden, he just walked off in his wheeler and went to my mum's side. I must have made him uncomfortable and when my mum saw what I had done to my brother's hair, my name was called.

Haha... I was like "Oh no!!!" Next thing I knew, my head got slapped and my ear was burning and red. I got a scolding from my mum.

Thinking back, I'll still laugh at this scene and how stupid I was.