Why so Serious?

Read a dating newsletter recently and mentioned telling guys not to be too serious when talking and dating ladies. It also mentioned that a "dating guru" is able to attract a girl to be his girlfriend within 7 days and he has not flipped a single page of any dating book in his life. He is successful by going through life and not taking himself too seriously. This has actually helped him charm his way to success with gals.

Well, anything can happen and there will always be someone better. I guess this is a advertising gimmick. It'll attract many guys to try to seek advice from this "self-learnt dating guru" and his concept of "Why so serious?".

Hmm... I guess this refers to being and having fun during the 1st few dates instead of being too serious. This will create a relax environment for both to enjoy the time together. But I believe once the relationship starts to settle in, it will become a serious affair. There's only two ways to search - to cast a net to catch many or to use a fishing rod to identify one. I prefer using the fishing rod with specific fish bait. If one knows what wants, there'll no need to go for so many dates and will be able to narrow down the search to the more specifics.

Understanding a person takes more than a few dates. Various forms of communication and asking issues that one places high importance can be used to understand a person better. The individual him/herself is the key because if one does not have a good character, no matter how many dates he/she goes, it'll still not bear fruit. Even if it bear fruit, it might not be a long lasting one.

This is something I've realised over the years from seeing the things that happen to people around me.

Merry Christmas and Big feast

Merry Christmas!!!!

Merry Christmas everyone. This is the 1st blog recording christmas. Christmas is one of my favourite public holiday. Gotta decorate christmas tree, buy presents and have christmas dinner.

My Christmas tree (hehe... a short one only 4ft but took 2 hrs to do it up)


One of my fav christmas presents - cookies (very delicious) hmm... seems all my christmas presents are food. Must have seen that I've shrunk quite a bit and want me to gain weight. Oh... I've just dropped to my ideal weight. Can't regain back those weights again. But I'm gonna finish this cookies.

Christmas eve dinner with family - cooked spaghetti (learnt from my bro, still not so bad for the 1st time) Side dish done by my bro - squid cooked with sweet sour chilli sauce (brings out the taste) Oh ya... we found a small fish inside the squid. I guess it must have a full dinner before being caught by fisherman.

Hehe.... my grandma's christmas dinner (a little plain and not so sumptuous but she enjoyed it. Quite long since she had big feast)

Delicious christmas dinner (beef steak, pizza and pork strips)

Had a very relaxing day on christmas and had 2 sumptuous dinners. Oh... hope I don't grow fat after these 2 days of eating. And there's new year and CNY next month. Hmm... Gonna start my exercise regime. Otherwise I'll lose target of my ideal weight. Hehe...

Wishing everyone a wonderful and smooth year ahead.

Problem Solved

I've no problem at the moment and there's no problem that has not been solved hehe...

The reason for putting up this topic is because I was travelling on the mrt today and I saw this t-shirt design that has two pictures. Ok... I know visualizing from words is a little difficult but please try to. Couldn't take the picture of it though as I might be being questioned by the wearer.

There's two pictures. One indicates a problem, the other indicates that it is solved. The picture indicates the problem shows that a figure of a woman shouting at a man. The other picture shows the man wearing a headphone while the woman keeps on shouting. Haha... seems stereotyping here. Woman is the one nagging and shouting while the man is the one bearing with all this. Putting on a headphone will not solve the problem it will only cause rift between the two as this is running away from the problem rather than facing it.

Yes the pictures are for fun and I should not take it so seriously but these pictures will impart certain things to others who take them as it is and eventually will never learn to resolve the problem.

Nice Desserts

Remembering my mum was craving for black sesame dessert for the past 2 weeks but I was busy preparing for my exam so I didn't buy for her then.

A little headache where to get nice desserts as I'm not really a dessert lover but I remembered a recommendation from my good friend and as I was free yesterday afternoon, I decided to make a trip down to Chinatown to stop her craving. Haha... hope it doesn't sounds like addiction. A search at the online food website and streetdirectory and I have located this shop which is located in Temple Street. Anxious to know the name? It's Mei Heong Yuen.

Got a direct bus around my workplace to Chinatown but the trip still took an hour. When I reached there, I was startled. It was crowded and I knew my good friend made a fantastic recommendation. I stood near the counter and checked the menu. After awhile, a waitress asked me in cantonese to take my order. I was a little startled. Hmm... why would she think I'm able to speak cantonese? Maybe I got a "cantonese" look. Haha... Lucky I could speak cantonese otherwise I'll have to tell her in mandarin what my order is.

Walnut

Almond

Gui Ling Gao - for my bro as he's always studying till late into the night

Black Sesame - my mum's favourite dessert

We like to share and I tried all of them. The walnut, black sesame and almond pastes are all very smooth, taste very good and one of the best dessert I've had. My favourite is almond as I like its taste better. Its worth the money and the time to get the dessert. Of course, not forgetting to thank my good friend for the recommendation.

A Wet Sunday (a busy one too)

Oh.... cool sunday... Its raining since the early morning. Remembered that on last Monday which is Hari Raya Haji, it was also raining and as I was listening to the radio, heard the DJ saying that it is also a wet holiday and thus many people sms to her that the mood has been spoilt by the rain and they were lazing around the house and feeling bored.



Is there really nothing to do at home or it never occurred in people's mind to find something useful or meaningful to do at home instead of lazing around? Well, a look around the house has kept me busy the whole public holiday and at the end of the day had "bones cracking" from the packing of books, clearing tables, etc to mopping the floor. Haha... Can't be the reason of "lao le". I've not crossed the mark of half my lifespan (presume 65 one lifespan hehe....) I guess I had not worked out and doing physical stuffs the whole day has strained my muscles and bones.



A busy sunday for me. Alarm bells are ringing already.... Chinese New Year is just 6 weeks away. Gotta start some spring cleaning otherwise can't finish the cleaning up of the house. Oh... the thought of that and I'm feeling my bones starting to crack and muscles aching already.



Hmm.... in the past, I'll start with the glass windows first. Since today's a wet day, I can't possibly stick my head out to do the cleaning of windows right. So now, plans changed and I'll start with internal first. Don't wanna wait till the weather's good or next week as procrastination is no good and doesn't get things done.

Schedule date

I just need a place to rant and here I am.

Finding a date comfortable for everyone is really tough. After setting a date, if one of the major person can't make it, have to reschedule a date again.

It will be really difficult for coordinators as they are unable to know when the stakeholders are available or not unless the coordinators are told the dates that are available and to schedule a date from there. The stakeholders should play their part by informing and confirming the dates beforehand to avoid repetitive work for coordinators.

But it seems many people are just not thinking from the coordinators' point of view and will only inform the coordinator that they are unable to make it after the date has been set.

Well, I guess there isn't a choice but to work around this problem by doing repetitive work, confirming the date again and informing respective parties of the change. Who ask that the person unable to make it is a major stakeholder.

Haha... Its very interesting to note that after ranting it out, one can feel more at ease.

Lesson learnt

Last week, I realised that I had a lot to learn on handling complaints. Two guys came up to the reception which I was there at that time. They were quite agitated the moment they started talking. I asked them to calme down before explaining the situation. After understanding the situation, I offered to look into the matter.

After that, I reflected on how I handled the situation, I was a little defensive at the start. I believe I could handle it a little better by giving more assurance and also to tone down my expression. I should have realised how they have felt when they were being stopped by the security guard when they have actually paid their season parking. Being treated like a trespasser is not really a good feeling.

Well, its a good learning experience for me. And I hope that I'll be able to handle such situations better the next time.