It's been quite sometime since my last post and I've accumulated quite a few thoughts. Its time to "upload" the thoughts.
This topic seems quite interesting. Do we do a test or not?
This test, on one hand is to check one's health status and on the other hand, is to put your partner at ease about this issue. When one has a clear conscience why do one not do it. Putting your partner at is should be your utmost concern before marriage. This will display your confidence towards the "abstain from sex" issue but what is more important is honesty and sincerity towards your partner.
To me, it is not about the issue of trust. During the discussion of this issue, some will ask this question of "You don't trust me?" will pop out immediately. To put the reason of trust will show that one has something to hide. This will demonstrate a sign of defence.
This being a sensitive topic. Defence will lead to more questions. Any miscommunication will lead to different perception and misunderstanding will lead to argument.
Its the same for every issue. When there is a defence, misunderstanding will follow as it will show that one has something to hide. Suspicions will set in and many perceptions will form and might lead to arguments.